Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears [Episode #624]

This week’s topic is: Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears

Fear is the number one stumbling block in all of our lives. And no matter what we want to create, what our individual dreams and hopes and aspirations are, fear keeps us small. Fear holds down our energy, our creative ideas and is the opposite of love.

Today, I’ll be sharing your guide towards overcoming your fears so that life can open up more, every single day!

Have you been wondering about this very topic? If you want to know the answer to this question and 3 more sent in by Beauties just like you, listen now to find out!

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[Questions Answered]

Susette – NC 

Hi Kimberly! What’s your experience when thinking about death? I think a lot about this to the point where it’s emotionally draining. I’d like to have a healthy perspective so I can feel settled and okay with what’s inevitable.

Clare – Texas

Feeling accepted by others is preventing me from wanting to meet new people. I’m worried they won’t like me. How can I get over this?

Diana – Missouri 

Ever since my boyfriend left me I’m not interested in having another relationship just so I can be abandoned again. I need to get out of this deep funk but don’t know where to start?

Sofia – RI

I’m often criticized by my very vocal family who have no filter. How can I make any decisions in my life without worrying about the aftermath from them? I’m so tired of it all and know it’s not healthy for me.

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Kimberly:                      00:01                Hi Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday, Q&A podcast where we have a very important topic today, Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears. And this is such a huge, huge topic, because fear is the number one stumbling block in all of our lives. And no matter what we want to create, what our individual dreams and hopes and aspirations are, fear keeps us small. Fear holds down our energy fear holds down our creative ideas and fear is the opposite of love. So we’re going to get into this topic today. I cannot wait to shape, share more with you. And I have to say that we are in the middle of our first week of pre-sales for the launch of my new book. You are more than you think you are practical enlightenment for everyday life. And if you pre-order the book today, today, you will get the first few chapters of the book right away, including the chapter on fearlessness.

Kimberly:                      00:57                So I can’t wait for you to read it. I get into way more information practices and ideas, and much more in depth ness than I can here. So please go over. And pre-order the book today for your sake, for your benefit. And if you get two or more copies, not only will you get to read the first two chapters today, I’m so excited, you will also get our free our course for free, which is called beyond fear, awakening, freedom to live your best life. And we will be selling this course after the pre-sale period of the book for $197. But if you get the co the books, the books today, gift one to a friend, or just keep them for yourself. I have multiple books of my favorite books that I keep in different places. You’ll get the course for free. And this course I have to say is amazing.

Kimberly:                      01:46                There are 13 videos explaining different aspects of fear, the root of fear, different types of fear, how to get to the bottom of them and move past them exercises, journaling practices, meditations. And for the very first time I am teaching part of this course with my husband, John. So it’s a very special course, and I cannot wait to share more and more with you in these resources guys. This is definitely my best book. This one channeled through me. It does not feel like my book. It just feels like information that wants to be here on planet earth. And I was just a channel. I tried to get out of the way as much as possible for this to flow through for your benefit. I offer this to you right from my heart. And I can’t wait for you to benefit from these teachings. There are ancient teachings from the great guru Paramahansa Yogananda and others.

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Question #1 around the topic of: Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears: Hi Kimberly! What’s your experience when thinking about death? I think a lot about this to the point where it’s emotionally draining. I’d like to have a healthy perspective so I can feel settled and okay with what’s inevitable. 

Kimberly: Let’s get right into our questions today. The first one comes from Suzette who lives in North Carolina and she writes, hi, Kimberly, what’s your experience when thinking about death?

Kimberly:                      03:32                I think a lot about this to the point where it’s emotionally draining. I’d like to have a healthy perspective so I can feel settled and okay with what’s inevitable. Well, Suzanne sending you a big hug out there to North Carolina, big warm hug, so much love. Thank you. My love for your question and for being part of our community. This you hit on a big one and wow, this is the first question on the show today. Big one. I think a lot of us in many ways, fear death, and we live our lives to a point where sometimes the way that we live is affected because of the fear of death. And it is natural to want to protect ourselves and keep ourselves healthy and sound. But at the same time, we have to live a fearless existence because we are not in control of everything.

Kimberly:                      04:25                And yes, our bodies will die one day. And yet at the same time, the more fearless we become and the more connected we become to our inner essence, we realize we do not need to fear death. We realized that there is more beyond this life. There is more beyond this body. We have a soul, we have spirit inside of us. And as our consciousness rises, and this is clearly stated in all faiths and in the, in the text of the Bhagavad Gita, which is named shin texts that comes from India. It clearly states when we are connected to the soul and to the spirit within, we do not fear the death of just this, this body. We realize that we are more than this body. We are more than what we look like. We are more than what we do. We are more. And so the way to overcome death, the fear of death is two parts.

Kimberly:                      05:19                Number one, rationally speaking, we take the steps to protect ourselves, right? We obey speed limits. We don’t drive too fast in the rain. We aren’t reckless if we are not, um, you know, uh, or even if we are highly trained rock climbers, I definitely recommend using ropes. And we live our lives with reasonable caution. We protect our children. We protect our families. We wash our produce. So we don’t get, you know, salmonella. We do our best. We wash our hands. We sanitize things as we need to. And then when we’ve done our best without over obsessing, then we set it to the side. And then the next part is that we connected. The trust that is available to us. Trust is part of living a fearless existence. Trust means that even though we don’t know what life is going to bring our way, even though we don’t, we can’t plan for everything, we can’t control everything.

Kimberly:                      06:30                We’ve done our best with what we can control. And so we start to connect to trust by connecting to the, to the fearlessness inside of us, to the true self inside of us, to the consciousness inside of us, to the spirit inside of us, to the love inside of us. And we breathe down into that part of us. We breathe down into our bodies. We breathed down into that, into the breath we connect, we start to meditate and we start to find stillness. We start to find that we can have access to something that’s far below the surface. And when we connect to that, our strength continues to grow and grow so that as we walk around in the world with our eyes open and we take reasonable precautions, we also experience the knowingness that we are more that if our bones break, if we stumble, if we fall, if we get in a car accident, if something happens to our bodies, ultimately it’s okay because we are more than that.

Kimberly:                      07:38                And we will go beyond that. I had a direct experience of this when my mom passed away and I held her in my arms. I was so honored, so blessed to do this. I held her in her arms, my arms, as she took her last breath. And as her body just settled into breathlessness, I felt a shift in energy. And I did not feel like she left me at all. I just felt like it moved. It shifted. She was, um, she ascended, she went somewhere else, but she didn’t die. And especially in the year after her passing her body’s death, she was so close to us in the house that it was almost like she was sitting with us and Emerson, Bubby, my oldest son, who was, you know, just turning one at that point every morning, he would wake up in the crib and he would, I would wake up to him pointing with, uh, you know, not crying, but just excited that Lola, Lola, Lola, and I would open up the door to his room.

Kimberly:                      08:54                And he would be to a very specific place thing. Lola Lola, Lola, which is the gala and the Filipino language, the word for grandmother, that’s what he called her Lola. And so my personal experience, you know, take from that, what you will, we all have different beliefs, but for me, my experience was so clear that we do not die. So we don’t have to fear this annihilation. I believe that energy, as Einstein says, is never, is neither created nor destroyed. It just changes form. So when we connect Suzette to our formless nature, which cannot be killed, it does not die in the Bhagavad Gita. It says something like paraphrasing here, but the soul can not be moistened by water. It can not be pierced by arrows. It cannot be broken. The soul goes on. And so the more we sit in meditation and the more we connect to our formless nature, we start to feel so much joy in connection to that, that we become less fearful of death in the way that we may think of death in the west or the way that we may think of death.

Kimberly:                      10:08                Like, oh, everything’s just going to go at that point. And we become more fearless. And we live life yes, with reasonable precautions, but also with a sense of fearlessness that gives us so much more energy in life. It’s truly amazing. So please sues that. Practically speaking, check out our practical enlightenment meditations, which are on our Solluna app and also on our Solluna website. And I will guide you through these types of meditations. So you can connect more to your true self each and every day. My love.

Question #2 around the topic of:  Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears: Feeling accepted by others is preventing me from wanting to meet new people. I’m worried they won’t like me. How can I get over this? 

Kimberly: All right, let’s get into our second question, which comes from Claire in Texas. And she writes feeling accepted by others is preventing me from wanting to meet new people. I’m worried. They won’t like me. How can I get over this, Claire, thank you so much for your question. My heart goes out to you. I feel the sincerity of this question.

Kimberly:                      11:04                And I think it’s something that we all can relate to in different ways. We keep ourselves small, including we withdraw ourselves from others. That’s a way to play it small because we’re worried about the results were rude, what they will think. And here’s the truth. The truth is some people will love you and like you, and some people won’t like you, and that’s the, that’s the honest truth. But here’s the thing. When we start to live life from our connection to who we are and we’re living our truth, we will find the people that we are meant to connect with and that we will vibe with. We will find our tribe. We will find our people and the people that are just simply a different vibration that we don’t really connect with. They’ll fall by the wayside. And that’s okay too, because here’s the truth.

Kimberly:                      11:56                Whether people like you or not, it doesn’t mean anything about yourself worth. It doesn’t mean that you’re a good or bad. It doesn’t mean that you’re better than or worse. Then it just means that everything is energy. So when you’re living your most authentic nature, the truth is that you are living more in love, more in compassion, less in judgment, less in, um, qualities like, um, hate and jealousy and resentfulness. So naturally your true self will shine forth. And that is magnetic. That is glorious. That is beautiful. And many, many people will be attracted to that. If some people are in a tough spot, if some people are in negativity at the moment, if some people aren’t feeling very good about themselves, that is about them, and they may not connect to your light, maybe they’re going through something, or maybe they’re just in a different space in life.

Kimberly:                      12:55                And maybe they’re just of a different vibration. Either way, you shine your light, Claire, you be you, and you can not worry about what other people are doing or where they are in their journey, because that is a not controllable by you and be completely about them. And see if you do that, you keep yourself small and you can keep yourself from connecting to some amazing soul friends, some amazing people that will support you on your journey and you can support them too. So I believe in a way it is a personal responsibility to not play small in life because we are each unique. We are each of us, a special light, a special vibration, and we can support each other. We can serve each other in ways that no one else can. So what I would say to say to you, Claire is please check out that course.

Kimberly:                      13:50                I mentioned, I get right into right into this, the root of fear. And there are some amazing journaling exercises that you can sit with to help you start to pick apart. You know, how can I move past this fear of rejection, this fear of not being accepted, because what that does, like I said, it just keeps you small and it limits your entire life. What I can say here is sending back meditating, more, finding stillness, really starting to love yourself by spending time with her, the real self of who you are. And when you connect more and more to her, you will feel more confident letting her come out to play in the world and not taking it so seriously because you realize the surface of life. If people like you or they don’t, if you have a bad day, someone insults you, or if someone, you know, compliments you all of it, none of it is serious.

Kimberly:                      14:45                It’s just play. The real you on the inside is unaffected by all those things. The real you on the inside is who will always show up for you, who will always be there for you, who will always validate. You will always see your true worth. And so you don’t have to take all this other outside crap. So seriously, we’re here to love and to serve. And if sometimes it’s a bumpy road, oh, well, you know, maybe that person was having a bad day, move on to the next person. Oh, this person is a different place in her journey. It’s okay. I’ll find my, my other person over here. It’s okay. But what is the most important thing is to go in and to connect, spend five minutes in the morning, at least meditating and start to build a 10 minutes, do the same thing in the evenings.

Kimberly:                      15:29                Spend five minutes and then 10 minutes create some real quiet in your morning where you can connect, breathe, have your hot water with lemon meditate, make something nourishing for yourself like the glowing green smoothie. And maybe you spend five minutes journaling, maybe just spend five minutes quietly, observing your thoughts, connecting in, getting real centered. Maybe you just get into a really strong meditation posture, lift your spine, look straight forward, close your eyes. Feel the strength of yourself. Feel that for a few moments before you go into the day, you don’t easily get so dinged around, battered around what other people think when you are connected to yourself and guess what other people will tend to respect you more. They will tend to see you more because you see yourself. It all has to start from the inside. And it truly is the most powerful thing we can do when we really are aligned to ourself.

Kimberly:                      16:28                Other people cannot help, but notice and take notice and our energy and the way that they respond to us will start to shift Claire. I send you a big, huge hug. I feel the sincerity of your question, and I can feel your energy from across the country, across the state. I can’t wait to meet you in person. My love and virtually. I also forgot to mention that we are giving away a looped event, a free, um, amazing life circle with me, a little mini conference. You can think of when you pre-order the book. So I hope that you will join. I will pick you out personally, Claire, from Texas who wrote this question, can’t wait to look in your eyes because we are connected and I see you. And I want you to see you more. And that’s what all this work is about. My love. So sending you so much love, can’t wait to see you in there, hopefully. And, uh, yeah, we’ll leave it there. My love.

Break

Kimberly:                      17:26                All right, Beauties. I love this topic. This is a deep one. Feel it feel inside of you, this access point, you have to your fearlessness, really. Um, it sounds cliche, but it is true. When FDR said there is nothing to fear, but fear itself. He was right, because the fear that holds us back keeps us from gifts that keeps us from the dreams. And that is the worst part of fear is just feeling the fear of letting it control us instead of letting it move through, processing it and having the tools and practices to deal with the fear in the first place. Then life just opens up more and more every single day. All right, we’re going to take a short break here. And when we come back, we have two more questions for you on this topic, your guide towards overcoming your fears.

Question #3 around the topic of: Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears: Ever since my boyfriend left me I’m not interested in having another relationship just so I can be abandoned again. I need to get out of this deep funk but don’t know where to start? 

Kimberly:                      18:22                All right, my loves. We have two more questions here. And the first one comes from Diana who lives in Missouri Midwest. Hi, Diana. Missouri is a, is a state I happen to have spent a lot of time in my ex was from Missouri. So I know it well, sending you a big virtual hug. Your question is ever since my boyfriend left me, I’m not interested in having another relationship just so I can be abandoned again. I need to get out of this deep funk, but don’t know where to start. Oh my gosh, Diana, I did not read this questions before I came on the show. And your question gave me such deep chills because my ex, who I just mentioned to you was from Missouri. And when we broke up, I went through a very similar experience of feeling a funk, feeling a lot of things, feeling a lack of trust in people and men in life.

Kimberly:                      19:28                I felt abandoned. I felt not seen, I felt small. And I tell you all these things, because I share a lot about this story specifically in the fearlessness chapter of this book, which again, I have to say one more time. You will get the chapter today. If you pre-order the book today, it will come right to your inbox immediately. And so I’d love for you to read that chapter. I had no idea that these questions would be so resonant with a book specifically. I will tell you that it is a very good idea. After any relationship ends a romantic relationship, a relationship where a loved one has left their body, a relationship where you end a friendship, a relationship where you end a partnership at work, or you quit your job, or you are terminated from your job, or you decide to part ways with a neighbor or whatever it is.

Kimberly:                      20:34                It is very important to have a period after that to process reflect, reset. And that’s what I did after my big breakup. I took some very specific steps and I reset myself and I found new strength and I found new confidence and I found a much deeper relationship to trust because what happens is if we put too much of our trust in other people and just move, we don’t trust people, but it’s secondary trust. Primary trust has to come from within ourselves. So when we start to really develop a deep relationship with ourselves from the inside, what happens is we rely on ourselves more and more. We develop more intuition. We love and honor ourselves in a way that when something happens on the outside, our relationship ends, we get dumped, we get fired. Someone tells us we don’t, they don’t want to be friends with us anymore.

Kimberly:                      21:42                We still have so much of our own trust in ourselves. And we say, okay, maybe I did something. And I’ll learn from that. Um, you know, I feel some mourn that I cheated on that person or I gossiped against that person or whatever. You know, sometimes we have behaviors that aren’t the best. And so we need this period to introspect and to learn, and then we can really move on and we can say, I learned, and even on this behavior I may have done, I may have done was not right. I’m still me. I’m still worthy. I’m still whole. And it’s okay. I’m going to move on from that. And if we really didn’t do anything per se, but it was just a natural end to the relationship, which was the case for me, it just sort of fizzled out. We can still say, I’m home, I’m worthy, I’m complete.

Kimberly:                      22:34                And this doesn’t mean anything detrimental about me. It was just the end of something. But we need time to process. We need time for these emotions to move through us. So we need to carve out stillness. I recommend at least a one week cleanse Diana cleanse, emotionally, where you simplify your life. You batch some meals, you make some stew, you make some kitchery. So you spend less time cooking, very warm nourishing foods, comfort foods, along with sprouted brown rice, kingua you make mushy warm foods. And that is what you eat besides the glowing green smoothie. So it’s in there. You don’t have to spend as much energy chewing. You’re just going into stillness into deep, deep cleansing. So one pot meals for one week. Body-wise I want you to do a yin yoga practice for one week as your main form of exercise or, you know, or the alternative is you really feel like you have to move some energy.

Kimberly:                      23:37                You can go for a run or a walk, but otherwise in yoga, or maybe both for me in yoga is what feels called to me. I want to go inward. So what does that mean? Lots of child poses move organically on your mat. You can also check out some of our, um, uh, beauty, detox, power, uh, yoga series, which are on the side. If that feels good to you, or we have some free, uh, series on YouTube or any series that works for you, but just really in stretching forward bands, Crescent, moon into Ford band, triangle pose. Just anything that feels good, but really connecting to, to your body, stay close to your mat, emotionally, get that journal out and you can start to really write out some deep, um, deep ways to connect to yourself. Questions like answers to questions. Like, what do I need to let go of right now? What did I learn from this experience?

Kimberly:                      24:42                What do I need to process? What angers, resentments, or pain are still inside of me that I can see now. And once I see it, I work to let it go. What am I grateful for right now? So even though you may feel like you are in a deep funk of Diana at the same time, you can find so many things to be grateful for and joyful for in this moment. If you look the ability to crawl around on your yoga mat, the ability to take a warm bath, warm shower, the ability to hear. So you can listen to our podcast and connect to our community.

Kimberly:                      25:34                The ability to breathe. Take it one moment at a time. And then finally, our fourth cornerstone spiritual growth. You go inward when it’s real choppy on the outside. And there’s messy relationships, especially we connect to stillness. We connect to the true self. Try our grounding, practical enlightenment meditation, which is free for you in the app on the website, it’s all free. Just sit in that grounding meditation, find your own grounded-ness from within Diana, any big shift, any big change, especially we need to get re grounded in ourselves. Once we are re grounded, once we have a solid root back in, then we can start to rise. Then the sprouts start to come back out. Spring starts to come after winter after we reground. So check out that grounding meditation. My love come back into yourself, come back into your light, come back into that connection.

Kimberly:                      26:39                So do this cleanse for me, try and do it for me and for, for me, because I love you for you because you love yourself. Eat one pot, stews this week, check out the recipes. We have glowing green smoothie, comfort food. Do your again, yoga practice. Stay close to your mat. Do you want to go for walks? That’s okay, too. I’m not sure how cold it is in Missouri right now, but you can check it out. Spend some time journaling, emotional wellbeing, connect to what you need to let go of as well as what you’re grateful to and do this journaling practice over and over again every day. What do I need to let go of today? What, what can I be grateful for right now? Number four, please. Morning and evening. At least do your seven minute meditation the morning and the evening there, about seven minutes, our medic or guided meditations. So do that for one week and then check back in with me right back in. Let me know how you’re doing. If that felt good, do another week, you can vary up the stews. It make some casseroles or some other easy to cook dishes, but I wanted all to be easily digestible.

Kimberly:                      27:49                Lots of recipes on the site. I send you so much love. We’ve all been there. My love I’m here for you. I know what it’s like, and I promise you one breath at a time you will get through this. You will rise again. And when you do, you will be so much stronger from this experience sending you lots of love. Sister, can’t wait to reconnect more, to hear more. I want to hear more about how you keep going and how you feel.

Question #4 around the topic of: Your Guide Towards Overcoming Your Fears: I’m often criticized by my very vocal family who have no filter. How can I make any decisions in my life without worrying about the aftermath from them? I’m so tired of it all and know it’s not healthy for me. 

Kimberly: All right. My loves final question here comes from Sophia, who lives in Rhode Island? Hi, Sophia. She writes, I’m often criticized by my very vocal family who have no filter. How can I make any decisions in my life without worrying about the aftermath from them? I’m so tired of it all and know it’s not healthy for me.

Kimberly:                      28:41                So this is a big one. Love when by extension, we are associated with our families. Uh, people that you know are part, you know, connected to us. They’re, they’re part of our flesh and blood, so to speak, but they may be in a very different place and they may be living very different lifestyle. So I will say this. You have to develop your confidence in your own decisions externally from them in a practical sense. You may want to germinate the seeds of new ideas, things that you’re going to pursue, whether it’s a job or relationship a friendship, keep it to yourself until you need to share it with them. Maybe sometimes you don’t need to share everything with them. These little seeds need to be nurtured and watered before they really start to take root. So if your family is critical, if your family is always putting their ideas on to you, maybe you don’t have to tell them everything right away.

Kimberly:                      29:47                Keep it close to yourself. At the same time, you connect in with yourself. All these practices we mentioned before, meditation, stillness, journaling, breathe into your body, stay with yourself. The more you do that, the more you stay grounded and rooted to yourself. The more you realize that you don’t have to get their approval. You are living your life and you can start to feel confidence building from inside of you. The third time, third thing is to create healthy boundaries. So you can have a very straightforward conversation and you can say, listen, I’m living my life. I’m doing what feels good to me in each moment. If you don’t agree, then I’m going to have to stop telling you so much because I welcome discussion, but you’re very critical to me and I don’t appreciate it. And it doesn’t feel good to me so we can talk about things.

Kimberly:                      30:52                But if you’re going to just be critical, I can’t tell you everything anymore. I’m sorry, but this is the way it has to be. So you say it with love, but you say it with firmness and you say, listen, it’s not a threat, but there are consequences to crossing the line. And if their critical illness is affecting your well-being, you cannot keep putting yourself in that position. It’s just not fair. So number one, in the beginning of any endeavor where you don’t have to share every little detail, you start to hold back a bit more. If that feels good to you, number two, you honor your inner connection. You strengthen it, your confidence so that even if they make little comments or criticisms, you’re less susceptible to it in the first place because they can’t affect you as much because you’re so connected on the inside.

Kimberly:                      31:40                And number three, you have a straightforward conversation about healthy boundaries and how important it is to maintain them and see how that does. You know, it’s not healthy. You wrote that in the question, then I can feel that it’s not healthy for you. We all know that it’s draining a number for you seek a supportive community because we all need community. As much as we have our inner strength and our connection to ourselves, we are still here. So we balance that with outer connection and community. And I would love for you to join our Soluna circle, where we talks, talk about our hopes and goals and dreams, and we share these things in there. So please, whether it’s the Soluna circle or other community like-minded friends, please share with others so that you don’t have to rely on a critical family. They are on their journey to, we love them. They had their own pain. They’re going through their own stuff. It doesn’t mean we don’t love them, but at the same time, you have to keep yourself well and healthy. If that means pulling back a little bit from information, if it means creating really healthy, loving, but firm boundaries, please do so Sophia, you are important and you cannot let your self, um, your sense of self go down because of outside influence. You are too important to the world.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly:                      33:04                All right? My loves, we got through our questions today, but I feel like we are really just at the tip of the iceberg. We are just getting started. And so I want to leave you with our quote of the week. I’m quoting right from your more than you think you are. My new book, page 27. This is part of the chapter that you’ll get today. If you pre-order the book, you are fearlessness. I write fearlessness is the foundation of freedom. Otherwise you will find herself tiptoeing through life, staying in your little self-imposed cage. And I just want to read one more sentence. I’m just looking ahead and freedom lies. Enlightenment. When you are freed from the ignorance that you have to be scared of life, scared to be yourself, scared that so many potential things are going to quote get you then, and only then can your life expand into its most beautiful expression?

Kimberly:                      34:08                All right. My loves from the bottom of my heart. I love you. I’m here to support you, always in all the ways that I can. And I sincerely believe that my new book will support you in ways that perhaps, you know, my, my greatest offering to you, a channel through, I think this book will help you the most of anything I’ve ever put out. Sincerely. I do believe that. So I hope you check it out today. You get to read those first few chapters. I can’t wait to hear what you think. I’ll see you over on the website. I’ll see you on social at _Kimberly Snyder. Have a beautiful day and see you back here soon.

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