Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness [Episode #628]

This week’s topic is: Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness

I personally believe that connection is the key to really living a fulfilling, successful, peaceful, and joyful life. And I’m talking about deep connection, heart connection, connection to your true self, to the voice of your intuition and your gut, the stable part of you.

Self connection is critical as we move through the world. When we start with that beautiful, deep self-connection and we work to strengthen that through practices like meditation and checking in and pausing before we eat and all of these other techniques we’ll get more into that today.

It does lead to deeper connection with other humans and other people in our community, our pets and animals, and just other beings in general, because when we turn on that self connection, it becomes this lens through which we look at the whole world. It’s a very important topic to get into and I can’t wait to get into it today.

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[Questions Answered]

Franny – Massachusetts  

My sister tells me how I should get out of the house and socialize more, otherwise I’m going to turn into a recluse and not find true joy in life. Is there any truth to this?

Daisy – Texas

I’m having a hard time with my husband that I greatly love and care for. We work and live together. Sometimes he is very impatient and says hurtful words and tends to spin a victim mentality for himself when frustrated. Other times he talks about things I don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes I just can’t sit there and witness this. I feel like I will explode if I don’t stand up for myself. When I do speak up I am sure it is with emotion and I’m just fueling the fire. Do you have any suggestions?

Louise – Kentucky 

Seems we were made to have a community around us but how do we find the balance between the workplace, our homelife and finding alone time for our happiness and wellbeing?

Michelle –  Denver

Kimberly, I’m so grateful for the endless wisdom and light you share. How do you keep the energy space you surround yourself with positive and light? I know energy is so powerful and to be careful about what you attract. For example, my husband will laugh at me or call me a scaredy-cat when I don’t like to hear or see violence in movies or shows. I hate any weapons or guns. He’s fascinated by murder mystery movies and that’s the last thing I’d ever want to watch or learn more about. I think it’s ok to just do these things separately sometimes but how do I get him to understand my viewpoint?

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Kimberly:                      00:00                Hi, Beauties and welcome back to our Thursday, Q&A podcast, our community show where all these questions come right from our beautiful, amazing community members. And I love the show because I love to hear about what you are wondering about how I can best support you. And we create these thematic shows based on the questions we get. So our theme today is Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness. So we have some amazing questions today, all around this topic. And I want to just say at the top of the show that I personally believe that connection is the key to really living fulfilling, successful, peaceful, joyful lives. And I’m talking about deep connection, heart connection, connection to your true self, to the voice of your intuition and your gut, the stable part of you. So self connection is critical as we move through the world.

Kimberly:                      01:01                And when we start with that beautiful, deep self-connection and we work to strengthen that through practices like meditation and checking in and pausing before we eat and all of these other techniques and things that we talk about in the show, and we’ll get more into that today. It does lead to deeper connection with other humans and other people in our community and either other, um, pets and animals, and just other beings in general, because when we turn on that self connection, it becomes this lens through which we look at the whole world.

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Kimberly:                      01:54                We all know that reviews are important. And so leaving a review today is just an amazing way to say thank you for putting on the show. And I will say, thank you right back, right from my heart. Please be sure to subscribe to our show and that way you don’t miss out on any of these Q&A podcasts or any of our interview podcasts or solocasts that air on Mondays. I also want to give a quick mention that our book, our new book, you are more than you think you are practical enlightenment for everyday life is pre-selling right now. And for a limited time, if you get the book today, you can also read the first few chapters today and also get invited to our special live looped event, which will be an opportunity to meditate with me live and to ask questions.

Kimberly:                      02:45                If you get two or more hard copies of the book, you can also get our beyond fear course, which is really amazing. So I say, it’s our book because honestly, you guys, I don’t feel like it’s mine, these teachings and these techniques and these practices, which are the first, this book is the first time I’m really sharing all of this stuff. It does not belong to me. I truly believe it is here on this planet for everyone. I think everybody should have access to these teachings. And I said, you know, my sincere intention with writing this book is to great this equality, where we can all use these teachings and benefit our lives. So to me, it’s our book as a collective, it’s our book as a community, and I cannot wait for you to read it. So again, I encourage you to pre-order the book today, because you’ll get the chapters, you’ll get into the events which are going to be hosting in the next few weeks.

Kimberly:                      03:48                Um, and then you’ll also get this amazing video course with more practices. So please do that and check it out over@mysoluna.com or you’ll see all the information once you pre-order to get access to everything. All right. My loves let’s get into our topic today. Why connection is connected to happiness?

Question #1 around the topic of: Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness: My sister tells me how I should get out of the house and socialize more, otherwise I’m going to turn into a recluse and not find true joy in life. Is there any truth to this? 

Kimberly:                      03:48   So the first question comes from Franny who lives in Massachusetts. Hi, Franny, sending you a big warm hug out there. She writes, my sister tells me how I should get out of the house and socialize more. Otherwise I’m going to turn into a reckless and not find true joy in life. Is there any truth to this? So for any, thank you so much. My love for your question. And it’s interesting that you’re framing it. You know, the reason this came up for you is someone else put their reality on you. Someone else had an opinion, something, an outside voice made you question, you know, what was going on with you now?

Kimberly:                      04:55                Well, meaning friends and family and people that love us and care about us sometimes have of course, some real value to share. But I will say that as humans, we are all completely unique and some of us are introverts. Some of us are extroverts. Some of us need more time with others and some of us need less time. And so I think that there is not a right or wrong answer to this question. There is not a right amount of time or a wrong amount of time that, um, you need to, uh, devote to, you know, so-called socializing, you’ll have to tune into yourself any and see that line. So this is a good one to really reflect on and maybe to journal about, am I, how much socializing time do I need? Do I need to increase this right now? Do I need to decrease it and find more stillness?

Kimberly:                      05:52                Do I get energy from being more social? Am I hiding something or I don’t feel comfortable. And that’s the reason I’m less social, right. So I know for myself, I used to be, uh, you know, I used to have a lot of self-esteem issues and I didn’t always feel so confident, so good. So sometimes I would avoid certain social situations because I didn’t feel good showing up there. I felt like I wasn’t cool enough, or I’d say the wrong thing. It would be stressful for me. So over time, I’ve definitely opened up. I’ve conducted more, I mean, a lot more comfortable with myself. So I feel pretty good in social situations at the same time. I know myself and I like being with friends and being present at the times that I choose, but I get a lot of energy from stillness and I need to carve out more stillness because I’m with my children a lot who are very young and my husband, and there’s a lot going on for me.

Kimberly:                      06:54                Career-wise. And so in my limited amount of free time, I don’t want to give it all away to social time. It feels good to me to balance some of that and balance my own inner time. But if you asked me this question, you know, 10 years ago, 12 years ago, whatever, when I was starting on this journey, the honest answer is the reason that I’m avoiding social situations is because I’m not fully comfortable with myself. And now I’ve grown into uncomfortable with myself. And I know that I need to balance. So this is the amount of time that feels good to me. So that’s why I think it’s so powerful for any, for you to set an introspect within yourself and to just see, you know, some of those questions, I said, does it feel like you’re avoiding for some reason, or are you someone that genuinely thrives in more alone time?

Kimberly:                      07:49                And so I think when you are able to, you know, really get to the bottom of your feelings in your relationship around socializing, being by yourself, you’ll you’ll know the answer to this question, and it’s not something that your sister can know or project onto you. What’s right for her may not be right for you. And, you know, she may be well-meaning, but she doesn’t know your feelings, your, um, exact relationship with, uh, being an introvert or an extrovert, or how you get energy. And all of that, all of the answers are inside of you, Franny. So I do encourage you to meditate, try one of our practical enlightenment meditations, and then in the potent space, after meditation, you can work on these journaling practices and really go into your heart and see what feels good to you. So thank you so much. My love for this question.

Question #2 around the topic of:  Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness: I’m having a hard time with my husband that I greatly love and care for. We work and live together. Sometimes he is very impatient and says hurtful words and tends to spin a victim mentality for himself when frustrated. Other times he talks about things I don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes I just can’t sit there and witness this. I feel like I will explode if I don’t stand up for myself. When I do speak up I am sure it is with emotion and I’m just fueling the fire. Do you have any suggestions?

Kimberly:                      08:42                I think this is such an important one, because we all have to find that line. We all have to find that balance. And you know, this is something that, um, is important to check in with ourselves about and just see if lifestyle is really matching our needs. All right. My love let’s get into our second question. And this comes from Daisy who lives in Texas. Hi, Daisy love. Thank you for being with us. Thank you for your question. She writes, I’m having a hard time with my husband that I greatly love and care for. We work and live together. Sometimes he is very impatient and says hurtful words and tends to spin a victim mentality for himself. When he gets frustrated. Other times, he talks about things I don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes I just can’t sit there and witness this. I feel like I will explode if I don’t stand up for myself. When do I speak up? I am sure it is with emotion or when I do speak up, I am sure it is with emotion and I’m fueling the fire. Do you have any suggestions? I feel so stuck. I do love my husband and the life we have created together. I just wish he was not so darn stubborn and hardheaded. It really hurts my feelings.

Kimberly:                      10:02                Thank you so much. Oh my goodness. There’s a lot of richness in this question, Daisy. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing with us so much. Um, there’s, there’s really a lot here. I can tell that you’re a very heart-based person. You talk about your feelings a lot, and you talk about how much you love your husband and you care for him. So here’s where it’s really important to, to really know where we put up the healthy boundaries with our significant other, with our friends, with our family members, if your husband is not feeling good within himself, for whatever reason, he’s going through something, or he has some unprocessed part of himself, I recommend that you, um, start to be aware of what you own and what he owns. And then we start to draw a healthy boundary there. So for instance, let’s say you did participate in an argument and you add, you put stuff out and he puts stuff out.

Kimberly:                      11:05                And then it led to something that we know was a lot of energy, zapping drama. You can own your part and you can say, okay, I could have handled this better, but at the same time, I said, sorry. And you know, I owned up to my part and he continued to not let go. He continued to push me and say really hurtful things. And that’s what he owns and this inability to let go and this constant projecting out and trying to hurt me. So I think that it’s important to be aware of which part you both play and something that my husband and I have done that’s been really helpful is when we are not in a triggered moment when we’re lying in bed. And we’re just talking to bring up those situations in a time again, where it feels really safe to both of you.

Kimberly:                      11:56                So you’re not in the heat of know heated moment of an argument, which is never a really great time to go into this stuff and to really have a heart to heart and just, you know, started out by saying, you know, babe, I just, I want to talk to you about something it has to do with my feelings and how I feel about this. So we’re not blaming, and we’re not saying, you know, right off the start, you know, you do some things that are really bad or you, you know, are to this or that make it about me. I am hurt. And I want to explain what happens, you know, that makes me feel hurt. And so really coming from your heart and a non accusatory way and sort of letting things be on the table. I also think it’s really important in these situations to own your part.

Kimberly:                      12:44                So when I’m talking to my hobby, I say, you know, I own that. I got really triggered by this thing that we’ve talked about before, but for some reason it still bothers me and blah, blah, blah. So I own my part so they can see the other person can see that you’ve really created awareness here. And you’re not just again, putting all the blame on them, but you’re looking at it with more, um, rationality, because sometimes, you know, especially as women, we go into this, you know, divine, feminine, emotional, um, non-linear, uh, way of being that is all about the emotions and the feelings. And sometimes the rational part, um, isn’t as present for us. And so it’s important in these types of discussions that we stick to, how we feel and we stick to the situation. And then we come with with some fact and reason and maybe some suggestions for solutions.

Kimberly:                      13:39                So for instance, when you’re talking about, you know, um, uh, you know, you say her full words to me, I would appreciate if you’re feeling frustrated, you take a moment, you know, maybe you need to leave for a minute, go to go to the bathroom or go outside for a minute. Just if you could wait five minutes before you speak to me, I think we would have a lot more respect in our relationship. We know, I know you get frustrated, but you’re going to have to look at your own anger. And maybe you need to think about meditating or, you know, breathing, having some basic breath work practices to help you deal with your anger management, see where he is. And also maybe in some cases, you know, Daisy and only you can discern this. Sometimes professional help is warranted. Sometimes if someone just really has an inability to move energy and to move emotions, they may need anger management, counseling, or therapy, and maybe couples therapy would really be great for you guys as well.

Kimberly:                      14:40                So that’s something I would definitely consider and take that into your heart and your intuition and see how that sits with you. The other thing is, it is important to stand up for yourself, but you don’t want to speak up when you are overly emotional. So this is what I had to learn as well over the years is you may feel like you’re being trampled down upon you’re being mistreated, that you are, um, you know, something’s not right, but I can almost guarantee that if you’re speaking, when you’re not centered, when you are emotional, the other person isn’t going to receive the impact of your words and your requests in the same way. So same thing for you, Daisy. If he says something or does something that’s very hurtful to you, I suggest that you take a pause, go into your body, feel the sensations it’s go to the bathroom.

Kimberly:                      15:39                Just like, say, I need a minute here. And there’s sitting there for a minute because you know, it’s important to have that space. Sometimes for me just going, I don’t have to explain too much like, oh, I’m feeling triggered. Well, say I need a minute. I go to the bathroom, even if I’m not paying or anything, I’ll just go in there and feel, come back to your breath, come back to deep breathing, get out of your head, get out of your thoughts and start to center your body. When you center your breath and your blood pressure starts to relax and your whole nervous system starts to calm down. You will come back. The, you know, the, you know, the thinking part of our brain, so to speak, we’re getting out of the amygdala to the prefrontal cortex, different parts of your brain start to become activated.

Kimberly:                      16:23                And now you can start to the rational part of you can, can kick in. So then when you come out of the bathroom, you can look at your husbands and be present and be firm, but loving and not overly emotional speaking from your heart. But speaking from truth and saying, you know, I understand that you may be feeling frustrated, but it’s not okay to speak to me this way. It makes me feel very, um, it just makes me feel very sad. It makes me feel it, you know, hurt and we have to find a different way of communicating. So that’s a million times more effective than getting overly emotional and just screaming back or sobbing into tears. And so he can’t even hear the words that you’re saying. So I do find that centering yourself and then speaking your needs and being very clear. I need you to take a pause before you speak to me, you know, I need you to not project your anger onto me.

Kimberly:                      17:25                So, you know, if you need to just take some breaths or maybe you need to get some anger management support, we can’t continue in our marriage this way, because I love you, but I need to take care of myself and I need to be treated with respect. And I will always treat you with respect and we need to work on things together. And so I think that, you know, energy and motion is what emotions are. So we don’t want to speak when we’re overly emotional. We don’t want to get trampled down upon and, and don’t stand up for ourselves. So it’s important to find that balance and to check in with yourself and also really discern, like, what are my needs? What do I, what would I like to shift in our communication or in my husband’s actions and get really clear about that. And like I said, bring it up in a calm way, owning your, your part and, you know, reflecting back to him, your feelings, seeing how it goes from there.

Kimberly:                      18:27                And again, possibly considering bringing in a professional therapist, someone that is someone you really vibe with, of course, because not all therapists are created equal as we know. So let me know how you do Daisy. I send you so much love and so much support. And please keep in touch with me and ask any follow-up questions. I’m always here for you and, um, big virtual hug. I know that that that can be, you know, a tough one, but hopefully again, with just clarity and communication, you guys will be able to move forward and more peace and more connection.

Break

Kimberly:                      18:27 All right. My loves, we’re going to take a short break. And when we get back, we have two more questions for you on this important topic of connection and how it’s connected to happiness.

Question #3 around the topic of: Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness: Seems we were made to have a community around us but how do we find the balance between the workplace, our homelife and finding alone time for our happiness and wellbeing? 

Kimberly:                      19:19                All right, my loves, we’re back from our break. We have two more questions for you. And the first one comes from Louise who lives in Kentucky and she writes, sometimes we were made to have a community around us, but how do we find the balance between the workplace, our home life and finding alone time for our happiness and wellbeing. So Louise, my love, thank you so much for your question. I’m so happy. You’re a part of our community, and this is, you know, a little bit similar to what Franny was talking about here. So I believe we have our four cornerstones here at Solluna. And if you look at the four cornerstones, which are food, body, emotional well-being and spiritual growth, I believe it is critical. Number one, that we treat ourselves as whole beings. We are not just a physical body that eats food.

Kimberly:                      20:14                So we don’t just focus on diet. We don’t just focus on our workouts at the same time. We do need to take care of our bodies, but we have an emotional part of us and a mental part of us and a spiritual part of us is formless. Part of us, the voice of our instincts and intuition and guts, reflexes, and steadiness and intelligence and creativity, all of that. So I believe that the key to this balance that you’re talking about is to nourish all of the cornerstones, which means that automatically we start to create a balance between our inner world and our outer world. So the outer world is the doing, it’s making the Dharma’s kale salad, blending, the glowing green smoothie going on a run or on your Peloton bike or whatever. You’re doing this doing part in the outside world, washing your hair, going on a zoom call, doing all of that.

Kimberly:                      21:16                That’s important. That’s part of life and you’re running after your kids, all this stuff. But we had to balance it with our inner connection, with our connection meditating morning and evening, ideally daily. I stress this with, with love because I know it has the ability to completely transform all the different parts of your life. We do not want to skip meditation. Meditation is where that self-connection is really found and fostered and built. So when we are more connected to our inner voice, we can discern, you know, tonight. Um, you know, I was invited to that dinner, but I think tonight I really need to rest and spend some time reading and journaling. And that’s the best thing for me right now, or tonight. Yeah, it feels it’ll be good to get out and to connect with other people. I’ve been feeling that I need a little bit more of that right now.

Kimberly:                      22:11                So meditating will give you access to that inner knowing. It will help you with your food cravings, say, oh, I need to shift this energy. I need some tools here versus just reading for reaching for the sugar or the chips or whatever it is. So we want to create that inner connection and really foster it. And same thing with emotional wellbeing. There’s a lot of practices that we talk about. So many things in our Solluna Circle. So if you haven’t yet joined our community over there, I definitely encourage you to do it. You can find information in the Solluna app. We just recently had our zoom call this month. Our theme is building a life of gratitude. And so we talked a lot about how gratitude for instance is about switching from lack based, thinking into full presence. Because when we are present, we see the lights, we see the joy, just being here, being alive and breathing when we’re not grateful, we’re in lack based thinking, because we’re focusing on what is not there, what it should be like, what we expected it to be like, you know, all these things that are in lack.

Kimberly:                      23:22                And that sends out a very different vibration into the world. And we will have a much harder time creating the connections and opportunities and success that we want because people feel energy, everything is frequency and energy at the core. And so, um, you know, that’s an example of one of the themes and some of the things talk about, and then we talk about practices for continually calling in our energy. And so here, this balance is, you know, having more tools to reflect emotionally, to journal on a regular basis, to have stillness, to understand what thoughts are versus feelings to digest the sensations in your body and to, to understand what is right for you. Just like I was saying earlier in the question to Franny, some people feel really good being out all the time. Some people find that very depleting for me. I have a little bit of time with friends every week, sometimes not every week, you know, but I see a lot of people, a lot of people come through our home podcast, guests and, um, you know, I get friends and colleagues and, you know, there’s just a lot of activity, other parents and things.

Kimberly:                      24:44                I see parents at the school, so I get my, my time. But I also know that I feel very imbalanced as I, if I give away all my time to socializing, that doesn’t feel good to me either. So first and foremost, Louise, you know, make sure you’re nourishing all four of your cornerstones. We have a guide to getting started over mysolluna.com. The new book, you are more than you think you are. We’ll support you greatly in this. And also in the Solluna Circle. Um, we have tremendous support from a community perspective for these kinds of questions. And that is also awesome because you really connect. We connect to, this is not like being on Instagram. There is so much connection in there. And you know, we do a live zoom. You don’t have to leave your couch. We see each other, we connect. And then there’s a daily opportunity to connect in the chat room, but it doesn’t have to be this huge time commitment either, but it’s very quality connection.

Kimberly:                      25:41                So I encourage you to check that out as well as another way that you can really balance your home life and yourself care with, you know, real quality connection. So thank you so much. My love and sending you much, much love out there in Kentucky.

Question #4 around the topic of: Why Connection Is Connected To Happiness: Kimberly, I’m so grateful for the endless wisdom and light you share. How do you keep the energy space you surround yourself with positive and light? I know energy is so powerful and to be careful about what you attract. For example, my husband will laugh at me or call me a scaredy-cat when I don’t like to hear or see violence in movies or shows. I hate any weapons or guns. He’s fascinated by murder mystery movies and that’s the last thing I’d ever want to watch or learn more about. I think it’s ok to just do these things separately sometimes but how do I get him to understand my viewpoint? 

Kimberly:                      25:41 All right, loves. Next question comes from Michelle, who lives in Denver and she writes Kimberly. I’m so grateful for the endless wisdom and light you share. How do you keep the energy space? You surround yourself with positive light. I know energy is so powerful and to be careful about what you attract. For example, my husband will laugh at me or call me a scaredy cat. When I don’t like to hear or see violence in movies or shows, I hate weapons and guns. He’s fascinated by murder, mystery movies. And it’s the last thing I’d ever want to watch or learn more about.

Kimberly:                      26:33                I think it’s okay to just do these things separately sometimes, but how do I get him to understand my viewpoint? Wow, Michelle, so powerful your question and so intuitive. I absolutely love, love this question. There’s two big things that come across here. So first of all, you are very wise. My love and understanding that energy is powerful and there’s research. There’s science that shows, um, there’s things called mirror neurons, for instance, where if you’re watching someone cross the street and you’re watching them in a certain way, part of your brain starts to feel what you’re watching. You know, it’s a little bit more complex than that. There’s a section where I talk about the science and the book. Maybe I’m oversimplifying it here, but the point is our brain doesn’t distinguish pictures from reality. That’s why people talk about visualization as being a very powerful way to manifest because you’re starting to call in what you really want by visualizing the pictures of it.

Kimberly:                      27:40                So it is important to feel your energy and I am in the same boat as you Michelle. My love, I do not like to watch scary movies. I do not like to see any violence. I feel it in my body. I feel my nervous system getting jacked up. I feel my breath starting to get erratic. It does not feel good to me. It is not the kind of stress on my body that is needed or warranted or wanted. So number one, definitely protect your own energy. If something doesn’t feel right, if something doesn’t serve you, you just simply, um, aligned to that. You stay truthful to that. You do not have to explain yourself. You just really need to honor your body. And this is the same. If you know, we used to answer a lot of questions about criticism of diet and what people say about, oh, you’re plant-based, um, you know what, um, what, uh, this isn’t right?

Kimberly:                      28:41                Or, you know, you’re depriving yourself of nutrients or protein or whatever, and it’s never up to us to, um, change our behavior to please someone else. We always have to honor what’s right for us. So that’s number one, you are on the right track. Dear Michelle, it doesn’t feel good for you. Do it. Do something separate from your husband. Watch those shows. He can watch those shows. You can take a bath. He can watch it in another room. You can go read a book, do not feel that you have to entangle yourself in something that doesn’t feel good. Number two, this is a big one. He does not have to understand your viewpoint for it to be valid. I know it doesn’t feel good. Sometimes when people laugh at us, especially if we’re people we care about, but the truth is you can sit down with him and you can explain it once, honey, for me, you know, this may be difficult for you to understand, but for me, these types of shows and the violence doesn’t feel good in my body.

Kimberly:                      29:40                So I’m not going to watch it. You have fun. And when you’re doing it, I’m going to do something else. Super simple. It’s about your feelings. He may laugh still. He may say, oh, you’re a scaredy cat. That’s ridiculous. And guess what? That’s on him. You are living your life in truth. You’re holding that healthy boundary. Not everybody’s going to understand us. And sometimes we take things so personally, and we feel like we have to really explain ourselves. And everybody has to understand what we’re talking about. But the truth is that you don’t, you are here to share with others, to come into alignment, to grow your light, to be in your fullest energy, to live your purpose. You are not here to explain yourself to everyone else. You are here to live in your truth and in your life. So you do what feels good to you and other people have to respect that.

Kimberly:                      30:32                And in turn you respect his wants and desires and needs. He wants to watch that stuff. So you’re not taking it away from him. You’re just saying, I don’t want to partake. And that’s absolutely reasonable. He can understand it or he can’t. And either way it’s not on you, it’s absolutely fine. My love. So thank you again so much for your question. I send you so much love. Please keep in touch with me and let me know how holding that healthy boundary feels like for you. It may not feel at first supernatural. Maybe it’s a new thing for you, but I promise as you get used to that, you will feel so good and connected to yourself more because you’re doing, you’re honoring yourself and your needs, and then you will feel connected to your husband because it brings it up to a level of clear firm, loving boundaries and respect and equalness. And that will also create a deeper connection over time as well. Just not this pandering, not this desperation, or you have to understand me getting validation from him. You stand strong in yourself and we realize we need less and less validation from other people. Even our loved ones, we come with love, but they do not have to fully understand us. That is okay.

Thought of the Week

Kimberly:                      31:54                That’s a big one. So I’ll let that sink in. That was a big one for me to get is mutual respect, healthy boundaries, not wasting energy and always getting people to understand this. We can state our feelings. We can explain it once, but then it’s up to us to drop the over efforting and come back, come back to center because we are in our truth. And that’s really what matters. So when I read my your hour, my, your, our quote of the week, which is very simple, but I pulled this one right before we started the podcast. I think this is so important. This is a quote from the new book. You are more than you think you are. You are love. I am love, love inside all the time. You are love. I am love. Love is inside all the time. So connection is always available to us by connecting inside all the peace, all the love, everything that we really want.

Kimberly:                      32:59                We can find it on the inside. And then when we do that, then we can share life with our significant other, our friends, our loved ones, without trying to get the validation, get the understanding, get the love from them, get the support. It’s nice to have those things and share and community of course, and share in life and share experiences. But really the love is coming from inside of us. And other people may light it up and help us feel the love. But the love is inside of you all the time. So that is a big part of self-connection and it has the big part of happiness and joy is we realize we are the keys here. We have the power. We have the ability to be loving and to be full of love and to feel that love by increasing our self connection. So to do that, we need to spend time inside again.

Kimberly:                      33:58                I recommend please check out our free practical enlightenment meditations in the app. Please check out the new book. You can start reading the first few chapters. You are more than you think you are. I love you so much. These questions are awesome. You are awesome. Please keep them coming. And anything in everything that you’re wondering about, I love to be here for you. So thank you so much. My love you are important. You are unique. I appreciate you so much. I will be back here Monday for our next interview podcast till then take great care and sending you so much. Love Namaste.

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